Sunday, 29 December 2013

A lesson of love

BEST STORY THAT WILL MAKE YOU CRY One young man went to apply for a managerial position in a big company. He passed the initial interview, and now would meet the director for the final interview. The director discovered from his CV that the youth's academic achievements were excellent. He asked, "Did you obtain any scholarships in school?" the youth answered "no". " Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" "My father passed away when I was one year old, it was my mother who paid for my school fees.” he replied. " Where did your mother work?" "My mother worked as clothes cleaner.” The director requested the youth to show his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect. " Have you ever helped your mother wash the clothes before?" "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Besides, my mother can wash clothes faster than me. The director said, "I have a request. When you go home today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning. The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back home, he asked his mother to let him clean her hands. His mother felt strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to her son. The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time he noticed that his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises were so painful that his mother winced when he touched it. This was the first time the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the school fees. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had to pay for his education, his school activities and his future. After cleaning his mother hands, the youth quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his mother. That night, mother and son talked for a very long time. Next morning, the youth went to the director's office. The Director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes, when he asked: "Can you tell me what have you done and learned yesterday in your house?" The youth answered," I cleaned my mother's hand, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes' “I know now what appreciation is. Without my mother, I would not be who I am today. By helping my mother, only now do I realize how difficult and tough it is to get something done on your own. And I have come to appreciate the importance and value of helping one’s family. The director said, "This is what I am looking for in a manager. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the sufferings of others to get things done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life.” “You are hired.” This young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates. Every employee worked diligently and worked as a team. The company's performance improved tremendously. A child, who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, would develop an "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first. He would be ignorant of his parent's efforts. When he starts work, he assumes that every person must listen to him, and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his employees and would always blame others. For this kind of people, who may be good academically, they may be successful for a while, but eventually they would not feel a sense of achievement. They will grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we are this kind of protective parents, are we really showing love or are we destroying our children instead? You can let your child live in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch on a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it. After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way. You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person. The most important thing is your child learns how to appreciate the effort and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to work with others to get things done. Try to forward this story to as many as possible...this may change somebody's fate.

Xmas in India with babes from around the world

I have spent many a Christmas in India trying for a baby and this year I was able to hold my own.I am still crying each time I look at her, as I begin to realise that she is real and this is not a dream where someone wakes me up.I don't think anyone could begin to appreciate how precious this baby is,except of course the marvellous doctors at the Kiran Infertility Center,in Hyderabad India and parents who have had a similar journey.Surrogacy in India has made this possible...we are now parents and our lives have been touched and changed by this little baby! I remember my mum saying how having children was the best part of her life.I also now understand why my parents were so protective and tried to cushion me so much in life...for all the times I fought with you dad,I'm sorry because now your actions seem so reasonable!I know Gary's mum was the same.
We are so happy to be  in the clinic's apartment  with other couples from around the world who are also celebrating the birth of their babies over this festive period.It's great to be around Saly as she gives us all invaluable advice on how to care for our newborns and it's good to all be in the same boat,as new parents!!We have had the best Christmas ever and thank KIC and our amazing surrogate mummies who have made our dreams possible.
Here is Dr Kiran with her granddaughter Babasha and Angela (the daughter of a nurse at the clinic) and Satvinder   the case manager for the clinic.The Kiran clinic is family based,which makes it very personal and allows intended parents build strong links with the clinic as they are dealing with the same doctors on a daily basis.In my experience this is not the case in many clinics around the world,particularly the UK.
Our best Xmas ever with Tracy and Gary(UK) Sonia and Ramon(Spain) and Swapna and Sabarish(India) all sharing a delicious cake compliments of KIC...THANK YOU GUYS! XX
As you can see our sleepless nights are paying off and Heaven is growing fast! She's already out of her first clothes and is into 0-3 months.She is so strong and is almost rolling! She has definite preferences and dislikes having her arms covered.I love it when she wakes,as she's all toasty and scrunched up and  when she looks into my eyes and holds my finger,I know she's everything and more.We love her to bits!!! X

Wednesday, 18 December 2013

Our beautiful baby is 1 week old today

Our little Heaven is doing well.She had to return to hospital a few days ago with jaundice,but is now on the mend.Our life has changed so much over this last week all thanks to our wonderful surrogate mummy here in Hyderabad,India at the fantastic Kiran Infertility center.Heaven is already developing her own personality and is really active and aware when she is awake.She is amazingly strong when we feed her and lifts her head and turns it from side to side.She is beginning to drink more milk ,but lets us know when she's had enough as she shuts her mouth firmly and has even used her hand to push the bottle away!

Heaven enjoyed her first bath yesterday with Auntie Sally.Sally is part of the wonderful Kiran team and is a nurse who lives in one of the clinic's apartments in India and is fantastic with the babies.Sally has years of experience with newborns and is a real comfort to have around for parents beginning parenthood!

Sunday, 15 December 2013

Heaven Mia 7 pounds 4 oz

OMG sorry last few days been a little busy here's a few pics to keep you going until we have a little free time lol.



Tuesday, 10 December 2013

The baby wants to meet us x

Hello Gary and Tracy,
your wait will finally be over tomorrow morning at 10 am.
our Doctors have decided that birth will happen tomorrow morning at 10 am at lotus children’s hospital and the baby is ready to come out into this world.
please come to first floor at 10 am and meet Dr.Samit
We have been in india 24 hours now ,we went to the clinic this morning and spoke to the Drs and staff and they thought it would be a day or 2 before the birth.
We just got this email followed by phone calls to confirm the arrangements for tomorrow.
so in14 hours we get to meet our precious little bump !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!